Monday, May 28, 2007

We all Knew It Wouldn't Last........

I knew I knew it. You know sometimes I wonder if this is all there is relationship wise................games and BS!!!!

Ok the 'Young Buck' got the ax and to be honest I am not even mad but I will not tolerate too much BS from anyone much less a 24yr old!

So to make a long story short he's outta here......

Next!!!!!!!!!!!!

We were doing good, spending time, blah blah blah. I even cooked. Yes that is what I said cooked. It was very normal and fun for a tad. But you know in the end that, I have to go to the club weekly, started to irk me, but when you go to the club and are supposedly on your way to my house then disappear til 3pm the next day that is a whole nother issue. And to be honest a simple text message or phone call I am not going to make it would have done the trick. But no and then when I have something to say about it is was obvious how defensive he became and acted like a real ass or an issue that was minor. No one really cares where you went or who you fucked but respect me enough to say something rather than act like nothing happen. But in the end his mouth and the way he handled that situation got him cut. Hell its only been about what 6 weeks, If you cant keep it together that long we would have bigger problem later for sure. So next !!!!!!!! no accepting applications.

Wanted
A man good looking to gorgeous
$75k and up income
adventurous
open minded to mi bi-sexuality
Age 32-40
Southern gentlemen type qualities and manners
Hmm what else
single (do I need to say that)

Ha Ha. If you fit into those intial requirements now is the time:)

18 comments:

Anonymous said...

Ms. its not age its a matter of boys thinking they are men.Boys play the field,men recognize a good woman when they find one.Boys hide from the truth men live by the truth.You need to chill and do you for awhile.Its nice to see women still look for a southern gentleman,yall not from the south wouldn't understand but Ms. Know whats up.Thats all you looking for,(yes clarify) single as in no wife or girlfriend(s) not the IRS i'm filing my taxes seperate single,me and the wife having some problem single.now you know how them boys do and you put just single on there.LOL

Well take care and good luck with your career and dating Ms. Its time for this cowboy to get on his horse,rideout and chill on the ranch.

Tim from Columbus said...

Hello Ayana, it's Tim from Columbus and how are you?

Sorry to hear that you relationship didn't work out. You know the saying if first you don't succeed try, try again.

You cooked????? Yeah, that not calling you to tell you he wouldn't show up is a bunch of BS. A person who can't call and say hey I'm not going to be able to meet with you is being totally inconsiderate of your feelings.

OK, you know I love Ayana, here is my application.

Good looking
Way less than $75K-did I just get cut?
Adventurous
Open minded to your life style
Only 31, but my b-day is coming
Very much a gentlemen
Very, very single :)
Will always make time for you-even thou I live far from you
Will always be your friend

Anyhow, if my applicaiton gets rejected good-luck in your search.

As always, love ya

Tim from Columbus

Anonymous said...

No worries, you had to do it. He's the one that did it to himself, you had no choice. There are too many straight up guys who make you know, feel, and expect nothing less than brutal honesty. And it's that brutal honesty that is attractive as hell. Because you have respect for and value the constant choice to be honest. Nothing hotter, once you taste it, than having complete trust and faith in the one you're with, more than ANYTHING else you know. Mmmm mmm good. I'll pass that application. You let me know.

Dustin C

Unknown said...

Hey AA. Sorry to hear about the recent dating woes but better sooner than later. Too bad that there are so many guys out here making it their full time job to confirm the rep that women have had about men for as long as I can remember. I can't imagine how frustrating it is to constantly have to say "I knew it." or to hear "I told you so." Unfortunately, I don't believe that things will ever change. Why? Because there are so many women that choose to tolerate that foolishness because they feel that they don't have a choice. In any event, I hope that you prove me wrong someday soon and you find your soulmate.


PS. No application submitted. All qualifications are met except for that magic one.... No, no. Not that one. Single...

Anonymous said...

Dang girl! Do you really believe you are going to find a man that can accept your pass and deal with your bi-sexuality. I mean I'm sure you can find some guy whose willing to go along with the ride for the moment, but that's what it is, enjoying the moment and just like the others once they get their joys things will change. I know this may sound harsh but it will be difficult, I know you're going through a phase of change, but I truly think it will take years for you to find that fit you want. GoodLuck on your journey, just one more word of advise, if you meet a man who truly loves you and accept all aspects of your life, does lack of good looks or money disqualify him form consideration? If so, your journey will be longer than it has already been. Because although you are beautiful and fine ass hell, you do bring a lot of baggage with you. Love is a beautiful thing, a gift from God, but sometimes you have to accept that love in the package it comes in and if it's real love only good can come from it. Keep the faith, stay strong.

ethanarc said...

Really hope Relationships aren't ALL "Games & B.S"; Still want to believe that there are enough people out there who still believe in that "i genuinely like this person & so want to be with them" as opposed to that "wow, she looks like she'll be nice to have sex with continuosly, so Yes i'll get in a relationship with her" (Lol), cause that usually causes too many issue, not just for the couple in the relationship but for any other unlucky pansy who happens to meet them after that Trainwreck.
I'm not saying looks arn't important, i mean SERIOUSLY dude, see a woman looking like Ayana??...PLs who wouldn't want that. But still, you get the idea. Sorry it didn't go great for you girl; here's wishing you all that good stuff in love & life in general.

Anonymous said...

man, forget all the ass kissing, I'd like to meet you sometime, I'm 32 and I make 80k annually in the finance industry.

Anonymous said...

Hello A.A. I was reading your blog when I noticed you mentioned something about being bi-sexual and while I was reading I was watching tennis, Serena Williams was playing. So my question to you is Do you find Serena sexy or fine and would you have sex with her? Just curious.

L.A. said...

Hey, babygirl!!! This is L.A. from Atlanta. I hope you are doing fine.
First let me start by saying, "This guy is a freaking idiot!!" What man in his right mind would not be elated out of his mind to be a part of your life! This totally blows my mind, and goes against my standards of a southern gentleman. I would be honored and overjoyed to have such beauty, grace and style to you have been blessed with.

It's been said that what is one man's trash, is another man's treasure. I am not referring you as the latter, but as a rare and precious diamond. Raise above this and move on with your life, sweetheart.

Wishing to submit my application, as well. I hope it's accepted:

Handsome
Less than $75k
Adventurous
Very open minded to your bi-sexuality
43 years old
A Southern gentlemen
Single and drama free:)
Will worship the very ground you walk on.
Will always be your best friend!

Hope to hear from soon!! Stay sweet precious!!

Mad love and respect!!

Joe said...

Hi Ayana,the relationship thing is a difficult proposition.It takes a certain commitment that some are unable or unwilling to give.It only really takes a few common courtesies to maintain.You will be fine though as a 6 week relationship will pass without too much emotional discomfort.I met you a few times in Chicago & know you are not only a beautiful woman but possess an extraordinary personality & when you least expect it, you'll find the right fit for you.I wish I was in the age group, per you're requirements because at 50,single & just recently retired I have the qualities you desire.

CD68 said...

Hey Angel;
It's a shame to here about another man who doesn't know how to treat a lady. There are good men out there but you have to know where to look. If you're on the East Coast....

Here's my application:
Good looking
Over 75K & working on a project that will net millions gaurateed & can proove it.
38 year old Libra
A consumate gentleman
No sexual hang-ups
Single & cautiously looking
A Graduate Degree working on a PhD

What'cha think?

Anonymous said...

It's gonna be all right. You will meet that special guy. Just dont allow your self to fall into to the trap of believing that relationships wont last.Pace yourself and make the dude prove himself worthy of you. If he's still around after six months of no sex,then you have a good indication that he's really into you for you and not just your body.

Anonymous said...

Ayana, may I speak to you honestly and openly? Here is the deal, most guys who are aware of who you are, wants one thing, to have the Ayana sexual experience. That's not to be negative toward you, but that's just the nature of the beast(men). Then their are those men who choose to be involved a little longer than just for sex, they want to enjoy the pleasures of being with you but they know inside that a long term committed relationship is not what they want with you, because of some of your life decisions. Then there are those men who are just fascinated with who you are and it would fulfill some of their wildest dreams if they were given the chance by you and we both know usually those guys are losers and really interested in getting to know Ayana and not T.S. The man you should seek is one who wants to know the real you, a man that can look beyond the physical and get to know the wonderful person who you are, the beautiful spirit you posses and someone who will choose to walk with you through Christ. I believe you want the normal life and to me the normal life doesn't come with a $ amount or physical expectations. Here's a little advice, look into the man's heart and character before choosing. Although most good men won't choose to be with you for the duration because of your past and bi-sexual preference, A good Christian man will accept that you want to change and let your pass be your pass. Question for you; Have you ever been in love and in a relationship based strictly on the fact that you love one another? I think the happiness to your relationship issues lies within in you, maybe you just need to let yourself be guided spiritually. I think you're great Ayana, see you if you ever visit Dallas, again.

Anonymous said...

so you're not dating 24 y/o's any more?Give me that bugger's name so I can erase him for making me lose out:)

Anonymous said...

Ayana,

I would like to apply for the position of considerate boyfriend. My CV is enumerated per your guidelines as follows:

I am a man.

I am good looking. Gorgeous would be stretching it quite a bit.

I make well over 75K a year.

I am certainly adventurous.

I am 30 years old, my soul is ancient and my heart is 15.

I am most certainly a gentlemen. I open doors, I kiss hands, I say please and thank you and occasionally I even snuggle.

I am single indeed.

If I met your qualifications I would love to do a phone interview at your earliest convenience.

Most Certainly Yours,
Todd from Tulsa

Anonymous said...

Hi honey its Derek! Long time no see, and yes you know I'm the southern man to apply. Sorry it's been so long but travel has been nuts and I had no idea you had such a cool blog for me to keep up and touch base. If you remeber, I'm only a short trip north of ATL if you want to get away and enjoy. email me, let's meet up - dbsm3@yahoo.com
Later!
Derek

Anonymous said...

to Tim from columbus:

Is that Mac Douggie???

Musa said...

Damn!! Cooked for him? Sorry, but anyone foolish enough to give up food has to be loco.

No application here. Hope you find what you're lookin' for.

And if you need some info on the cat, let me know, I work for the IRS >=)